A little foretaste for you:
- What is resilience and where does it come from?
- How can resilience protect you?
- 3 GooodTtips to help you build resilience.
Why is this a GooodTopic for you?
We live in crazy times. The virus pandemic is not only affecting physical health – there is a crisis in almost all areas of life. People are losing their jobs and fear for their livelihoods, relationships are falling apart, and in some families the blessings of the house are really lopsided. But that is only one side of the coin.
Because there are also people who get through difficult times more easily and are currently even surpassing themselves – almost as if the crisis were an opportunity for them. Why is that? Why are some people seemingly more resilient to crises than others? The magic word is: resilience.
With our GooodNews we regularly provide you with tips and tricks for more mental well-being in your everyday life.
What exactly is happening here?
Resilience – what is it?
The word comes from Latin and means something like “bounce off” or “jump back”. In psychology, this means mental resilience, i.e. the ability to deal with difficult situations, stress and acute stress. This resilience of the soul is more pronounced in some people, while in others it is weak or hardly present.
How can I stay mentally healthy when the world around me seems to be going crazy? Because, let’s face it, that’s how it feels some days. The answer to that lies within. Those who have previously been reasonably stable internally have fewer problems in times of crisis than people who, for example, feel inner emptiness. Even those who have previously pushed mental problems away from themselves – for example through external distractions or addiction – feel “trapped” in the crisis, under pressure, as if the camel was about to overflow.
The immune system of the soul
The outer world has become quieter – and suddenly the inner world becomes very noisy. Travelling, going out, pursuing leisure activities – the outer framework of one’s own living environment is suddenly smaller. Rarely have people spent so much time at home in their own four walls. For some, this is tantamount to an imposed coercion, many feel patronized by the government, even feel like “victims” of the system and fight tooth and nail against the status quo.
Some break down in crises and suffer much more than others. Experts suspect that their resilience plays a huge part in this. Resilience makes it possible to look at a crisis in a solution-oriented manner and even to develop further through problems. One could also describe resilience as the immune system of the soul. The good news is that you are not born with resilience, you can learn it at any stage of life.
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What are the GooodTips for you?
1. Develop a positive and powerful attitude towards life
We know that many a foundation stone is laid in the first years of a person’s life. One’s own beliefs and behavioral patterns are formed in childhood. If you grew up in a family where you often heard negative comments, it is very likely that your own worldview is based on it. On the other hand, if you grew up in a household in which your parents or caregivers conveyed a positive and powerful attitude towards life – for example, by often hearing sentences like “You can do it” or “You’re good, just like you are” – the immune system of the soul is already well developed.
It is worth taking a closer look at your own beliefs as an adult and putting them to the test. However, it is important not to do this out of a victim attitude and, for example, to blame the parents (“Because of you I am like this”) – anyone who constantly sees himself as a victim, e.g. B. as a victim of the system, victim of his upbringing or society, becomes unhappy and ill in the long run.
Better: take your own destiny into your own hands. Focusing on strengths, practicing positive thinking (e.g. by working with affirmations, i.e. positively formulated sentences). Resilient people see the glass half full rather than half empty and think in terms of solutions. Exchange ideas with your fellow human beings, get help from friends, neighbors and family and also offer help yourself.
2. Train your “acceptance muscle”
Practice acceptance – only when you accept a situation do you create the basis for change. If you constantly fight against the current state, which you currently cannot influence, these negative thoughts not only weaken your own immune system, you also have no energy left at all, feel tired, become sluggish, listless and even depressed or aggressive .
I know that this hits a sore spot for many people – and that doesn’t happen overnight either. There are no quick fixes in resilience training. However, you could start today. It’s very easy and doesn’t cost a cent. The trick is to focus on the positive things and appreciate what is good. The easiest way to practice this is with a gratitude journal. Because writing helps to become aware of things and to get them out of the basement – out of the subconscious.
3. Consciously change your perspective every day
The gratitude method has even been scientifically proven – those who are consciously grateful are more resilient and can withstand crises better. It draws your attention to the positive things in life. And even if it seems difficult: you can always find something positive, even if it’s just a cup of coffee in the morning.
How it works:
- Each night, write down three moments in your day that you’re grateful for.
- These can be moments that have done you good and that you have enjoyed.
- Close your eyes for a moment and breathe deeply and calmly in and out.
- Feel yourself again in the beautiful moments.
Author: Iunia Mihu