The scientific concept


Simple. Personally. Sensible.

Learn mentalization

Learn to see yourself from the outside and others from the inside in conversations with people who are good for you.

Live mindfulness and empathy

Become mindful of your needs while being empathetic to the mental states of others.

Actively control emotions

Control your emotions and amplify your potential without changing your personality.

The key to enjoying a happy and fulfilling life is the state of consciousness. That’s the gist.

Dalai Lama

The psychological concept

Science for your well-being

This is how GooodLife works

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1. The “chemistry” of good relationships

Our psychological concept at GooodLife is based on the scientific approaches Theory of Mind, mindfulness (mindfulness) and mentalization.

Before we delve deeper into the details of these approaches, try remembering your two most recent friendships or romantic relationships that you ended.

What did these relationships have in common? What were the reasons why you ended the relationship? In addition to the actual reasons that are going through your head right now, the relationships have certainly either not touched you emotionally or triggered or strengthened negative feelings.

Now think about your longest friendship or love affair. What’s on your mind? With certainty you can explain that in these relationships “just the chemistry” is right. “The chemistry” you probably haven’t felt in your shortest relationships. Let’s get to the bottom of this chemistry together.

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2. How your brain can mirror emotions from others

Mirror neurons in your brain enable you to perceive emotions in other people and to feel them yourself.

Experiments have shown that when people perceive pain or disgust in other people, the same brain regions are activated as if they felt pain or disgust themselves.

In 1992 (1*), the Italian neurophysiologist Giacomo Rizzolatti discovered nerve cells in our cerebrum for the first time, which reflect what is observed and enable us to understand others better. These nerve cells are called mirror neurons. These mirror neurons describe the identifiable and measurable area in our brain where “the chemistry of a relationship” is created.

Of course, not only pain and disgust are “contagious”, but also many other emotions and affects, which everyone knows from laughing and yawning.

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3. Why emotions are your lifeblood

With GooodLife you decide which feelings you want to experience alone or with others and which feelings you want to free yourself from.

Emotions and affects (temporary emotional excitement) connect people and thus contribute to our personal development. Our selves exist only in the context of others. In this context, fear, anger, sadness, sexual excitement or euphoria are important factors that can affect our relationships.

However, emotions also play a special role in linking thinking and acting. However, a large part of our emotions are unconscious. We consciously experience only a small part of our emotions.

Because other people can influence our emotions, of course we also have a special role in the emotional life of other people. This influence usually also occurs unconsciously, because mirror neurons are largely responsible for this communication (U. Schultz-Venrath 2013) (2*). The language and the chosen words are just the iceberg of the communication process.

Unfortunately, unconscious also means more or less uncontrollable. With GooodLife we try to change this uncontrollability. With GooodLife we support you in deciding for yourself which feelings you would like to experience alone or with others and which feelings you would like to free yourself from.

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4. How to balance mindfulness and empathy

With GooodLife you train your ability to recognize mental content such as beliefs, desires, emotions and intentions in yourself and in other people.

It helps if you learn to be mindful by practicing mindfulness. Mindfulness means being in the here and now – not only physically but also mentally.

This is not normal for most people. You should direct your attention in the “here and now”, intentionally, not judge, not focus on anything. In this way you will get to know yourself better and later you will understand others better according to the “Theory of Mind” principle and “mentalization”.

“Theory of Mind” refers to a person’s ability to recognize mental content such as beliefs, desires, emotions and intentions in themselves and in other people.

By thinking about these mental states, or so-called “mentalization”, one can perceive and understand these processes better, i.e. give them meaning.

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5. What makes us different from other apps

At GooodLife, the focus is on the interpersonal experience, since pre-produced content such as texts or audiovisual media does not achieve the same effect as real interaction offers.

Most mental health platforms build on the concept of cognitive behavioral therapy, or CBT for short.

Unlike GooodLife, behavior therapy assumes that the way we think determines how we feel and behave and how we react physically. In order to achieve a corresponding change in cognitive patterns and the behavior associated with them, cognitive processes and behavior-oriented processes are used. Logged procedures are used, which can be digitized and thus carried out by both people and digital products.

Since the mentalization arises through attachment experience, this method cannot be carried out through a logged procedure, or even digital programs.

The interpersonal experience is and remains at the center of the GoodLife concept. Also, pre-produced content such as texts or audiovisual media cannot achieve the same effect as real interaction offers.

Actively control emotions

6. How you can benefit from mentalization

Since you were born, you have been influenced by other people, mostly subconsciously, through emotions, behavior and communication. With GooodLife you will be able to consciously experience meaningful interactions and thus learn to actively control your emotions.

Mentalization does not only mean that we perceive our own and other people’s emotions, feelings and behavior patterns, but also that we give the whole thing meaning.

Through mentalization, we amplify the emotions, feelings, and behaviors that are comfortable for us and others, while diminishing those that we find negative.

At GooodLife, our goal is for you to feel safe and secure in your interactions with others.

We are aware that it takes time to gain trust, but when there is progress here, then one feels safe and one can be more open in one’s feelings.

The interactions on GooodLife should help you better reflect on your experiences, distinguish significant from insignificant details, and understand what factors reinforced your feelings or beliefs.

Maybe someone else has a different perspective on the same problem or knows a better way to deal with it. It is not uncommon for certain disruptive behaviors and feelings in certain situations to stem from the past. In relation to the here and now, these are often no longer relevant or necessary, but we still get annoyed by them, consciously and unconsciously.

Regardless of what we do or feel, everything has a purpose. GooodLife helps you to better understand this sense and to find ways how you can feel or behave differently if necessary.

We at GooodLife do not see this as a classic therapy approach.

Since we were born, we have been influenced by others, mostly subconsciously, through emotions, behavior and communication. With GooodLife, meaningful interactions should be experienced consciously and you should be able to hold the steering wheel in your own hands.

Studies and Science

“… Mentalizing refers to our ability to read the mental states of other agents. The brain’s mirror system allows us to share the emotions of others. Through perspective taking, we can infer what a person currently believes about the world given their point of view. Finally, the human brain has the unique ability to represent the mental states of the self and the other and the relationship between these mental states, making possible the communication of ideas…”

“…Since the initial call for a second-person neuroscience (neural processes are examined within the context of a real-time reciprocal social interaction) we have gained striking new insights into the workings of the social brain in interaction. Findings are converging on a set of brain regions across mentalizing, rewarding, and mirroring neuron systems that play key roles and interact closely in order to support social behavior in ecologically valid contexts.

Preliminary evidence indicates that studying two brains in interaction not only allows us to ask new questions about how social behavior is realized at an interpersonal level and how this is supported by inter-brain neural activity, but also how social interaction difficulties might be related to alterations of inter-brain rather than single-brain network activity.

This study shows an association between self-other mentalizing polarities and aspects of self-other function. This highlights the importance of mentalizing for salutogenesis, even in a non-clinical sample. In this sense, this novel research supporting the association between mentalization and mental health, even in a sample from non-clinical population, stresses the importance of fostering mentalization not only in the clinical contexts, when mental health suffers because a disorder was developed, but also and very especially when the disorder still lacks and in order to prevent its development.

Mentalization-based treatment (MBT) seems to be an effective treatment in a naturalistic setting for BPD patients. This study of MBT shows that outcomes related to mentalisation, self-image and self-rated alexithymia improved. Initial symptom severity did not influence results indicating that MBT treatment is well adapted to patients with severe BPD symptoms.

Understanding motor events: a neurophysiological study. G di Pellegrino, L Fadiga, L Fogassi, V Gallese, and G Rizzolatti, 1992

Mentalizing Textbook: Making Psychotherapy Effective. Ulrich Schultz-Venrath 2013

We want to help you…

…but we can not replace professional mental health care with GooodLife.

In the event of acute emergencies or severe mental crises, please call 112 or the medical on-call service of the National Association of Statutory Health Insurance Physicians on 116117 .

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